If she's going in her crate then your husband is right about limiting the water in the evening. Put her on a leash in the house and don't give her the run of the house without any close supervison, take her outside every hour and when she does her "stuff" give her a lot of praise, maybe even a food treat, whatever so she knows you are really please with her. Make sure the kitchen floor is clean well so that there's no trace of urine scent, use vinegar or some commercial product.
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