you are likely to explained the behavior above. That is butting inbetween you and the boyfreind get her attention, It is simply an attention seeking behavior like others. The fastest way to stop this behavior is tostop rewarding it wich mean any time the dog but in both of you simply walk away and leave the dog alone.
While I have just advocaated the most often recommend and least successful method of dealing with attention seeking behavior it will work in this limit setting but it will not work for ending all attention seeking behavior because it does not address the dog underlying need.
Something you need to really think about
1. the dog has gone through a traumatic emotional experince of being rehomed it is natural going to need more emotional support than normal ?
2. if you feel that ginving the dog the emotion suport it need is a burdan are you ready for a dog?
3. Ignoring attnetion seeking behavior do not work becuase
1, it does not change the dogs underlying need
2. a phenonenom know as extinct burst which occurs when try to end behavior by ignoring it . Think of it this way yo get in an elivator and push the buttton for the foor and nothing happens. Do you get out and take the stairs? know you push the button over and over again harder, softer, longer. maybe try a different button before giving up. During an extinction burt the behavior gets worse much worse.
4. the reason a dog use a particular behavior to get attention is because it has learn from experience it is a behavior you can't ignore in the first place.
5. because you have not taught a more appropriate behavior even if successful all that happens is the dog will come up with a even more annoying behavior to get your attention.
the only thing truly succussfull in dealing with attention seeking behaviors are
1. being proactive and giving the dog the attention it needs before it has to ask
2. whenb it does ask give that attention immeadiately
3. teach a more appropriate and less obnoxios behavior for attention and reward it with attent for using it.
see Harmoney Programme
Position Statement on theUse of Dominance Theory inBehavior Modification of Animals
The Cure For Attention Seeking Behaviour Disorders
It is so simple – following the “crying baby” model for filling the need as soon as it arises, ASBDs can be entirely avoided as well as cured by giving focussed attention immediately and as soon as the request has been received.
This does not mean one has to put one’s entire life on hold or “run rings around the creature” – it is literally a simple little flash of attention at the right time and when first asked for it; the classic “a stitch in time saves nine” principle.
Rather than “rewarding” attention seeking behaviour, it never gets to escalate, the creature’s energy system remains balanced and the disturbed behaviours never need take place at all.
As the babies who are fed when they are hungry cry markedly less or not at all, creatures who receive attention energy (or love or recognition energy) when they ask for it, their attention seeking behaviours become markedly less frequent, markedly less dramatic and may cease altogether once the system has been in operation for a while and the creature has understood that not only can it get what it needs just the for the asking, but also it’s energy system has become more robust, more healthy, more resilient and won’t collapse when there is a time when attention is in short supply.
American Veterinary Society of Animal Behavior
Why Won't Dominance Die?
Many leading animal behaviourists are concerned that the “dominance” model of pet dog behaviour continues to survive, despite the accumulating evidence that it is at best unhelpful and at worst highly detrimental
...We live in a pack with our pet dogs and they either dominate us or we dominate them. To be at the top of the pack with total dominance would make you the “alpha”, with all the esteem that entails, therefore dogs will strive for dominance unless you beat them to it. It’s a neat explanation.
Except that none of it actually bears scientific scrutiny. Prof Richard Dawkins described self replicating ideas as “memes”(1) that live in our minds and pass from one to another through no reason other than their popularity, or catchiness. Some are harmless, like that annoying song you keep humming long after you’ve decided you hate it, but others can be positively harmful, like the idea that combined MMR jabs cause autism, which continues to prevent many children benefiting from the protection they provide.
The “pack” and “dominance” theory of domestic dogs is a harmful meme. It prevents many owners understanding their dogs, causes untold misery for both and is perpetuated by well-meaning but uninformed dog trainers around the world. It is proving extremely resistant to extinction.