I have a 10 month old Basset Hound named Oscar.
I love him but he is completely out of control, super needy and clingy and completely dependent on others for his happiness.
I refer to my son here a lot. He is a toddler, about 20 months old.
I have tried ignoring bad behavior and rewarding good behavior. This does not work. It really doesn't.
This is my day with Oscar:
Oscar is playing with chew toys / blankets / destroying pillow or other, loudly, outside our bedroom window.
Oscar is whimpering, crying and barking outside our bedroom window. He is also jumping up on to the burglar guards and windows. He obviously wants to be let in. I have ignored this behavior for 6 months and it still continues. He is not cold. He has a warm sheltered kennel. He has food. He has toys. His crying continues and we try to sleep through it until my son wakes up.
There is now activity in the house. My son is awake. Oscar is now at the living room doors, barking, whimpering and jumping up on the glass doors to be let in. This makes a huge noise and I am sure that our neighbors absolutely hate us. The people that live upstairs have also been awake since 5am.
I let Oscar in to come say good morning to the family. He runs and jumps up on all of us, including my son, and often knocks him over and hurts him. This is not on purpose or to inflict harm. He is just over excited.
Oscar then spends the next half hour running around the house sniffing out every corner looking for food it seems. We don't give him food now. His food is in his bowl outside. While I am trying to get ready / make breakfast / pack lunch, Oscar is constantly at your feet or jumping up on you. We are always falling over him.
8am - 6pm
Oscar has a large garden at home to play in. He has chew toys (cow hooves that he loves), tennis balls and whatever else of his or my son's that he is destroying. He has chewed up several of my son's toys, so we have to jump up and pack away whatever my son drops as it lands, otherwise it will be eaten.
The nanny is at home all day with my son. They are in the garden a lot of the day. Oscar is not alone in that sense. There is activity at the home the whole day, and the house looks out to the garden.
My husband and I get home. As soon as we walk through the front door, Oscar starts barking and whimpering and crying and jumping up on the burglar guards. This is very loud. I have tried ignoring this but it does not stop. I have to run and let Oscar in before even greeting my son, just to get the noise to stop.
My husband takes Oscar for a walk about 3 nights out of 5, depending on how late he works and how much light there is.
We have to put his leash on outside, as he wets himself from excitement.
Oscar is back from his walk. He is calmer after his walk, but still at our feet the whole time while making dinner etc. I try to get him out of the kitchen but he does not respond to "outside" "sit" or other.
Oscar cannot lie lazily on the carpet etc. He is up and about the whole time looking for food and attention. I know that he is young and energetic, but the constant jumping and licking and barking and whimpering for attention is exhausting.
I take Oscar outside while we are having dinner, otherwise he jumps up on the table and cries for food etc. He is not hungry. There is food outside for him.
All the time we are eating, Oscar is outside barking and whimpering and howling and jumping up on the doors. Not exactly relaxing. We eat fast and hurry to make the noise stop. Ignoring does not help.
Oscar is let back in the house to spend time with us while we watch television or do some work. He tries to jump up on the furniture or steal my son's toys to chew or goes to my bedroom to lay on the bed. He won't lay on the carpet and relax and be quiet. You can't pet him either. As soon as you want to stroke him then he gets over excited and jumps up on you and licks you, knocking you over. I so badly want him to lie quietly on the carpet and pet and stroke him but he is too desperate.
When we go to bed, we put Oscar outside and he doesn't scream or try get back inside. He waits until 5am.
His behavior causes constant stress and anxiety in our home.
We are constantly reprimanding him as he grabs food out of my son's hand or knocks people over or wets himself in the house or jumps up on our guests. None of our friends or family want to hang out with him, because he gets so over excited and won't leave you alone, ever. He is absolutely incapable of being by himself or entertaining himself or self-soothing himself. He is 100% dependent on us for his happiness.
I suspect that he sleeps all day and has this overload of energy for us when we get home and in the middle of the night when he plays and at sunrise.
I think he was taken away from his mother too young. We got him at 6 weeks.
I don't know if he is lonely. I am terrified to get another basset and have double this behavior. I know that they're hard to train (we have tried, promise), but Oscar seems well, it seems like he is very needy and not very smart or capable of taking instruction or "getting the hint" ie being ignored for 6 months but still doing the same thing every morning.
Like, in my house, I can't have guests over. We can't go sit outside on the patio furniture in the sun. Oscar will be jumping and barking and whimpering and licking and will not leave you alone. I can't perhaps lock him in our bedroom so we can have people over, cause that's also not right.
He owns our house. He owns us. He have tried training and understanding and take him to this awesome doggy park every weekend so that he can run and play with other animals. He has chew toys and tennis balls and food and a warm place to sleep.
I just want:
1. To sleep until 7am and for Oscar to be quiet until I come through to the door to let him in to say hi.
2. For him to be calm
3. For him to listen when I tell him to go outside or to sit
4. For him to not wet himself and "show pink" at the sign of any attention
5. For him to not chew every pillow/blanket that I buy for his kennel, that I dutifully replace.
6. For him to not jump up on everyone all the time and be so over eager and desperate
7. For him to not snatch food out of my son's hand. My son can't even walk around with like, an ice cream. Oscar takes it, and his toys, whatever he can.
I am tired of my own voice. I am tired of hearing myself shout at the dog.
I am tired of the anxiety and stress and irritation that all of us endure for him.
I am 7 months pregnant, and I won't be able to deal with a newborn, a toddler and this dog.
I know that the baby will wake us up 3 times a night, then Oscar too, then Oscar again at 5am, and then my son at 7am. I don't see how anyone in the family will get any sleep.
Please help me, and help Oscar. I feel the only option is to give him to another family that can handle him, but I can't give up on him. Am I doing something horribly wrong?
I've had dogs before and never had anything like this.
Natasha & Oscar