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I've been writing about this subject on another forum so while it is fresh in my mind I thought I might carry it over here.When I lost my Bubba to cancer in 2002 at the age of 3, I experienced so many feelings ,shock at the diagnoses, my heart ached knowing I would lose him in a short time, disappointment for not being able to have him till he was old, are just a few of the internal feelings I fought with. At times like this our families are not always our biggest supporters. It isn't that they don't want to help us through a difficult time, usually, they just don't know how. Many of our family members have not had the kind of relationship we have with our bassets so their answer for our grief is ,"He was just a dog,"or "You can get another one." The time we have shared with this worthy companion gets trivialized and sometimes we begin to question ourselves as to what is normal and what is not. When a heart breaks and is in pain for the loss of one of our bassets, it is real. It is normal. We can't just will ourselves to not feel the loss and sorrow, something very precious has been ripped from our lives. We resent it, we hate it, and there is absolutely nothing we can do about it. How do we get passed the pain? It isn't easy and be prepared for the long struggle. There are a few things that can be helpful. 1. There are a lot of pet memorial sites on the internet. My personal favorite is Portail Basset Hound Countries of the World. I have Bubba and Grace there. http://www.portail-basset-hound.com/memorial/bubba.htm. Choose a site you like and set up your own memorial for your basset who has passed. 2. Write a journal about your journey with your beloved companion. You can express yourself in any way you like. 3. Do a scrapbook of your dogs including any who have passed. 4. Find another doggy person to talk with, someone who doesn't mind if you ramble on until the cows come home, because they understand. That is mostly what we want ,someone to understand what we are feeling and not think we are stupid or we need to get a life. Sadly ,there are many who will never know the love of a canine of any breed,let alone a basset. Just remember,you are not alone, this isn't just happening to you, we will be here for you, our heart is breaking with yours because we've been there. Do something today, set up a memorial so everyone can have a look to see what made YOU so happy,and lives on in your heart.