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Have a six month old basset. She is sweet and gentle and goofy and smart. But her separation anxiety is beyond. My wife and I honestly feel like we’re being held hostage.
First some context: I did exhaustive research. Heck, I had to wait 13 years to be in a position that I thought was right to welcome a dog into my life, including over two years on a waitlist for my pup. I grew up with a dog. I spent a year living/caring for with a lab puppy. It sucked. It was hard. Frustrating. In short, I was mentally prepared. There were zero illusions here that this would be tough so I’m extremely ashamed to admit that most days I feel stress, anxiety, and anger as I continue to adapt to life with a basset. Having a three year old toddler doesn’t help, but here we are.
If my dog is alone outside for more than ten minutes, she barks. We only ever “make” her be outside alone to do her business. Can’t leave her alone in a room for more than two minutes or she’s barking. Loudly. Crate training didn’t work so when she’s inside we have to keep her on a leash attached to furniture. Today we forgot to leash her, I went to the bathroom, was gone for three minutes, and discovered her upstairs tearing into the trash. Have been able to go some places but have to take her with me which means she literally has to stay with me or, if not allowed in the store or wherever I have to leave her in the car (comfy crate, a toy, portable radio playing) and worry she’ll be stolen.
She goes to doggy daycare multiple times a week (loves it!) or when she’s at home she gets 3-4 walks a day and is never alone.
Please tell me what I’m doing wrong and that this will get better. Or, be honest, is this life with a basset?
First some context: I did exhaustive research. Heck, I had to wait 13 years to be in a position that I thought was right to welcome a dog into my life, including over two years on a waitlist for my pup. I grew up with a dog. I spent a year living/caring for with a lab puppy. It sucked. It was hard. Frustrating. In short, I was mentally prepared. There were zero illusions here that this would be tough so I’m extremely ashamed to admit that most days I feel stress, anxiety, and anger as I continue to adapt to life with a basset. Having a three year old toddler doesn’t help, but here we are.
If my dog is alone outside for more than ten minutes, she barks. We only ever “make” her be outside alone to do her business. Can’t leave her alone in a room for more than two minutes or she’s barking. Loudly. Crate training didn’t work so when she’s inside we have to keep her on a leash attached to furniture. Today we forgot to leash her, I went to the bathroom, was gone for three minutes, and discovered her upstairs tearing into the trash. Have been able to go some places but have to take her with me which means she literally has to stay with me or, if not allowed in the store or wherever I have to leave her in the car (comfy crate, a toy, portable radio playing) and worry she’ll be stolen.
She goes to doggy daycare multiple times a week (loves it!) or when she’s at home she gets 3-4 walks a day and is never alone.
Please tell me what I’m doing wrong and that this will get better. Or, be honest, is this life with a basset?